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Suppose you could see yourself as I see you! I see you naturally loving, powerfully courageous, innately valuable, and wow! Amazingly resilient! You are all this in the depth of you. I know this to be true.
The trap of performance:
From a young age, we learned that success was the key to belonging.
“If I get this award, that promotion, I will belong.” You often find yourself putting your close relationships on the back burner, prioritizing your to-do lists, tasks, and goals.
The trap of self-neglect:
Putting others before ourselves leaves us disconnected from our own needs.
“If I put others above myself, I will be seen as good.” You may often feel depleted from overgiving, trying to support others when your tank is empty. “
The trap of pushing love away:
We may get defensive and wear emotional armor, pushing others away even when we crave genuine connections.
“The only way I can keep safe in relationships is by putting on my guard.”
The trap of getting lost in anxiety:
The fear of rejection often leads to constant anxiety, preventing us from truly connecting with loved ones.
“If I prepare myself for the worst, their rejection won’t hurt.”
There’s a pit of anxiety lodged in your gut. You’re waiting for the other shoe to drop.
The trap of rejecting feelings:
We hide or deny our emotions, making us feel like outsiders in our social circles.
“If I repress my emotions, I will fit in.” When you express a heartfelt emotion, you get embarrassed and regretful.
The trap of self doubt:
Relying on others’ opinions rather than trusting our instincts leaves us in perpetual self-doubt.
“If I don’t commit to anything, I won’t fail or be rejected.”
You’re second-guessing yourself.
Imagine saying to Superman:
“You flew way too fast. Your suit wasn’t pressed. You could have taken the time to say ‘goodbye.’ You don’t have your shit together. You can’t be Superman!”
People can be difficult.
Imagine shaking loose other people’s messes, recognizing what is and isn’t YOURS.
It can take guts to be authentic.
Imagine feeling safe as you become honest with your thoughts, feelings, and needs.
Attend to yourself
Imagine being present and comfortable in your skin, liking being you.
Life can be hard.
Imagine feeling steady and secure handling the day’s challenges ~ seeing the beauty in yourself and others as you navigate difficult life changes
It’s been a long journey, taking on all insecurities and losing ourselves. We crave returning to our true essence.
Uncovering Our True Self
Imagine the immense relief you’d feel if you could tap in and fully embody the courage, resilience, value, and love that are innately within you. Yes, these qualities are right here within each of us.
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JF Benoist is passionate about helping bring people together, creating a community with a sense of belonging, and acknowledging the deeply innate core of love, value, courage, and resilience
After spending decades working with people challenged by relationship strife, anxiety, depression, addiction, and more, JF realized that the common denominator in our pain and suffering is the lack of connection with ourselves, others, and the natural world.
A person’s ability to develop a secure sense of belonging deeply affects their access to emotional safety and authentic expression. Connection underscores everything in our lives.
This life-changing work led JF to launch the Avive la Vie movement and write Avive la Vie – An Adventure in Belonging
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Are you tired of being reactive?
Think of how often you responded in an undesired way; maybe you snapped at someone or shut down because you were stressed about work. Did you end up feeling alone or misunderstood? It’s painful to live this way. It’s time to break the isolation when the cycles keep repeating themselves. Your triggered behaviors are not who you are. It’s a learned habit of false belonging.
Operating from the trap of our corrective mindset robs us of genuine connection with ourselves and others. We can’t afford to live from those maladaptive false belonging behaviors of performance, self-neglect, pushing love away, getting lost in anxiety, rejecting our feelings, and self-doubt. We deserve to experience real bonds and real connections. We deserve to belong for who we truly are!
We have been inflicted with a lifetime of conditioning, which has left us with unresolved feelings of distress. The irony is that the same conditioning seems to lead us toward believing that it’s our job alone to figure out how to get out of this dysfunction. The truth is that we are all wired for connection, and together, we have learned those false ways of being, and together, we can learn to reconnect with our true selves. It’s essential to our nervous system to be together in a group experience to come back to the experience of true belonging.
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